'Your mom...': The Pune-born reporter who makes Trump officials see red

There’s a certain irony in American politics today. A journalist gets more flak for asking a question than for making something up. But that’s the world S.V. Dáte lives in — a world where “your mom” is now a legitimate White House talking point.Shirish V. Dáte, HuffPost’s veteran White House correspondent, didn’t think he’d end up as a meme. He’s 61, polite, and prone to quoting documents, not punchlines. Yet one text — “Your mom did” — fired off by Trump’s press secretary Karoline Leavitt, turned a legitimate question about US–Russia diplomacy into middle-school theatre. The White House communications director, Steven Cheung, chimed in with another “your mom,” confirming that the administration’s official language is now a mix of MAGA and meme.Dáte had simply asked who suggested Budapest for Trump’s upcoming meeting with Vladimir Putin. He got, in return, the most versatile insult in modern English.“This is a serious war that’s going on that has killed tens of thousands of Ukrainians,” Dáte told The New York Times. “And then your response is, ‘Your mom’?”

The Troll Presidency

Donald Trump’s administration has always been a circus, but this was new. The insults weren’t whispered in off-the-record briefings or spun into Fox News segments.

They were texted directly to a working journalist — then gleefully posted online.“Far-left hack,” “moron,” “nobody takes you seriously” — Dáte has heard it all. When he wrote about Trump aide Stephen Miller, Cheung reportedly sent an expletive-laden text questioning his height and masculinity. Dáte replied with old-school decency: “In nine years, have I ever insulted you?” The response? “You’re being a moron.”

The Last Reporter in the Room

HuffPost’s Washington seat, surrounded by right-wing outlets cheering the administration, feels increasingly lonely. Dáte occupies it like an island. He’s not a bomb-thrower; he’s an old-school reporter who still believes journalism means making phone calls, filing FOIA requests, and occasionally being told to go to hell.He grew up in Pune before moving to the US as a toddler. His parents were doctors — his rebellion was to tell stories instead of saving lives.

He worked the crime beat in upstate New York, took collect calls from jail inmates, and later covered Daytona Beach and the Florida statehouse. Then he did something only a novelist-journalist hybrid would attempt: packed up his family and sailed across the Atlantic in a 44-foot boat.

Two and a half years later, he docked in Washington — and found himself once again chasing storms.

HuffPost vs. The Empire

HuffPost, long dismissed as “bloggy” by Beltway purists, has found purpose in precisely this kind of friction.

When Leavitt’s “your mom” reply went viral, the site didn’t sulk — it monetised it. The homepage carried a fundraising slogan: “MAGA Makes ‘Your Mom’ Jokes. We Make Headlines.” Donations jumped 66% that day.HuffPost Editor-in-chief Whitney Snyder brushed off the spat: “Maybe he’s gotten under their skin.” Which, in D.C., is the closest thing to a compliment.HuffPost’s political editor Kevin Robillard says Dáte’s obsession with Trump isn’t partisan — it’s existential.

“He’s alarmed not because Trump is a Republican,” Robillard told NYT, “but because his presidency breaks every precedent.”

Journalism in the Age of the Clapback

There was a time when politicians feared tough questions. Now they just quote-tweet them. The new communications strategy isn’t about denying — it’s about dunking. And Dáte, with his quiet insistence on asking “why,” is the perfect foil for an administration built on spectacle.His May op-ed captured this shift perfectly: the real media scandal of 2024 wasn’t overplaying Biden’s age — it was normalising Trump.

And that’s why the attacks keep coming. He’s not dangerous because he’s loud, but because he’s consistent. He keeps showing up with questions no one wants asked.

From Budapest to Banality

For all its chaos, the “your mom” saga is a perfect symbol of the Trump era: the trivial replacing the terrifying, humour as a weapon against accountability. In another time, a question about Putin would spark debate about diplomacy. In 2025, it triggers a meme war.Maybe that’s the lesson of Shirish Dáte — the man who sailed the Atlantic only to find himself drowning in sarcasm. In a White House that runs on trolling, his insistence on professionalism looks almost radical.As he put it, with the kind of understatement only a reporter can manage: “Things got testy at times with Jeb Bush’s staff. But never like this.”

Background: The Making of Shirish V. Dáte

Before becoming a White House regular — and the rare journalist to ask Donald Trump if he regretted lying — Shirish V.

Dáte had already built a reputation for courage and curiosity in equal measure. Born in Pune, India, in 1964, he moved to the United States as a toddler and grew up across Massachusetts, New York, and California. A Stanford political science graduate (Class of 1985), Dáte was drawn early to accountability journalism rather than access journalism — a distinction that has defined his career.Over three decades, he reported for the Associated Press, Palm Beach Post, National Journal, POLITICO Magazine, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, The New Republic, and Slate.

In Florida, his investigative series on Jeb Bush’s school voucher program exposed fraud and triggered a criminal inquiry, while his exposé on the Florida House Speaker’s hiring of an unqualified former Hooters waitress got him banned from the chamber — a badge of honour in Tallahassee’s press circles.He later chronicled Bush’s rise in Jeb: America’s Next Bush and profiled Senator Bob Graham in Quite Passion, alongside writing five political thrillers. Between newsroom stints, Dáte and his family spent nearly two years sailing 15,000 nautical miles aboard Juno, an odyssey from the Caribbean to the Aegean that now feels like an allegory for his professional life — steering into storms few others dare to face. Today, based in Northern Virginia with his wife and two sons, Dáte continues to anchor HuffPost’s White House coverage. His method remains defiantly analog in a digital age: ask the question everyone’s thinking but no one’s brave enough to voice.