Robert F Kennedy Jr reportedly told his wife Mary Richardson Kennedy that it was her own fault he’d cheated on her with dozens of women, according to an American magazine citing secret recordings he made of their conversations during their bitter divorce.
“I want to be in a monogamous relationship. I don’t want to be in a polygamous relationship. I think that’s wrong,” he told her in a June 2011 recording accessed by Mother Jones magazine.
“But then why have you done it for 10 years?” asked Richardson, who had found a diary listing 37 of her husband’s infidelities.
“I did it because I was being abused at home,” Kennedy replied.
It was just one of more than 60 conversations that President Donald Trump’s nominee for secretary of health and human services secretly recorded, according to Mother Jones. At least one recording appeared to have been made when Kennedy was in California, a state that requires both parties to consent to a recording, the site reported.
He apparently used the recordings to compile a 60-page affidavit accusing Richardson of violent outbursts, excessive drinking, physical abuse, and threatening suicide in front of their children.
Richardson in turn prepared a previously unreported point-by-point rebuttal, saying Kennedy “has been stealthily tape-recording phone conversations in my home,” according to Mother Jones. She died by suicide in May 2012, without ever filing the rebuttal in court.
In the document, Richardson admitted she had once lost her temper and hit Kennedy, but she denied many of his allegations—including that she had ever talked about killing herself in front of their kids. Her husband was waging a “scorched earth” campaign against her, she said.
She also alleged Kennedy had physically abused her, was abusing prescription medicine, had lied to her about the extent of his infidelity, and was a bad father. She also called him a “sexual deviant” and a sex addict, and said she had texts and photos from his phone related to his affairs.
“I have witnessed Bobby’s obsessive-compulsive need to not only beat but annihilate someone he perceives as an adversary. He re-jiggers the facts, or makes them up, and rushes to tell as many people as he can so that is the version of reality that gets distributed in people’s minds—classic gaslighting,” she wrote.
In September 2013, Kennedy’s 2001 “sex diary” was leaked to the New York Post. In the back of a nearly 400-page red notebook, he listed 37 women and, using a scale of 1 to 10, noted which sex acts they’d done.
Sixteen of the women were marked as 10s; on one day he recorded a “triple play” with three separate encounters listed as 10, 3 and 2.
The diary highlights Kennedy’s struggles with his “lust demons,” and on days he’d managed to resist a sexual temptation, he wrote, “Victory.”
“Despite the terrible things happening in the world, my life is… great. So I’ve been looking for ways to screw it up. I’m like Adam and live in Eden, and I can have everything but the fruit. But the fruit is all I want,” he wrote in November 2001. In an earlier entry he wrote, “It’s not misogyny. It’s the opposite! I love them too much.”